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Monday, April 21 2014

I think we all get to the point when we know something is over, done, finished!
Here are some indicating factors of when you're completely through with something:
1)  Every time you look at your spouse or significant other, you feel like either (a) belting him/her in the head with the first sizeable blunt object you can get your hands on, or (b) puking into the nearest garbage can or other workable containment device.
2)  Each time you get on the freeway to go to work, you think about pulling out the speaker wire to your sound system to use to strangle yourself to death before you get there or hope you have a massive heart attack in the parking lot before you have to get out of the car.
3)  Instead of another rep or workout class in XYZ Gym or one more round with the Zumba Wumba instructor with the thick accent you suddenly find that you'd be "okay" with being (or turning into) a 500-lb. fat ass drooling slob with cottage cheese thighs that puts the craters of the moon to shame.
4)  Just the thought of spend another moment [fill in the blank] makes the prospect of jumping off of a building or a very high mountain seem like a much more desirable choice...without even putting a fraction of a thought into choosing the latter.
If you're feeling this way about any part of your life at all, it's time for a change.  Dragging it out for another few days, weeks, or months (or the worst possible scenario...years) is just hurting yourself and everyone else involved.
And, most devastatingly, it's crushing your soul and spirit all at the same time.
What to do...
Listen, I happen to be sharing something with you right now.  We're both in the same "boat," so to speak.
Most of my students have a variety of different "normal life" challenges they have to deal with which runs the gamut with what we all (unfortunately) have to experience by being alive on the earthly plane of existence.
Just because I do well financially doesn't make me exempt from having to deal with stuff.
A couple of days ago I gave you an honest blow-by-blow account of what's going on with my office/warehouse situation here in Valencia, California where I run the daily operations of Global Success.
And as I sit here typing out this email, I am contemplating whether I'll actually show up here for the rest of the week...or not.  After all, I can accomplish much more at home when I'm not being suffocated with the neediness of my staff and the immense overhead I've collected here over the years.
This is the only facet of my business that doesn't match with the stuff I teach my students.  You see, I had an interesting trade-off to consider years ago.  If I was going to share success strategies with people on a larger scale, it was going to require some sacrifices, including taking on the responsibility of an office and staff.  Again.  And I made that sacrifice because, back then, it seemed like a good idea.  I had the energy for it.  I was committed.  And I was ready to take on the world.
As we age, learn, grow, and emerge as new people, our needs change.  Our perspective changes.  Our requirements to continue to grow, learn, and change is altered as we move along.  And things that were a "good idea" months or years ago suddenly seem like they're not meshing with your "new" requirements as a growing/evolving spirit.  That means they've got to go!
If you're one of those people where you know damn well that it's time to move forward but you don't know what to do, listen up.  You can't keep talking yourself into schlepping yourself to that job each day if you're so sick of it that you instantly start dry heaving when you think about it.  Same goes for marriages, relationships, and other "things" you find yourself doing that you can't stand doing anymore.
Years ago I got this Nightingale-Conant audio set called "Jump and the Net Will Appear."  While I remember absolutely nothing about what the audio set was about, I always remembered the title.  In fact, it's the only Nightingale-Conant course title I can recall on any subject. 
If you think about the concept:  
Jump and the Net Will Appear!
What an empowering concept!
Part of jumping includes making a concrete decision that you know you won't back down on only because you can't "go back" to the prospect of living in "status quo" anymore.  You just can't; otherwise your soul will shrivel up and die before the end of the summer...and you know it.
Over the years, the biggest obstacle for success that my students have had to battle is their lack of belief in themselves.  They start the process of working the very basic step-by-step action plan that I set up for them and, at some point -- whether they're on the first step or the very last step -- they'll talk themselves out of success.  And they don't go through with it.
But the really cool thing about being in the position where you are absolutely sick of the way your life puts you in the mind set of saying to yourself, "F*** it!  Let's do this sh** because what's the worst that can happen?  I may actually get the life I want finally?!"
And then you do it!  Without fear.  Without man-made obstacles.  Without the devil on your shoulder talking you out of it.
Just a clear path to victory in the shortest amount of time possible.
When you're ready, it'll happen.  When you're so sick of the way things are, you'll just do it.  You'll finally do the things you've dreams but were too afraid to follow through with.
So, congratulate yourself if there is any aspect of your life that you've found you can no longer tolerate anymore.  In fact, drink a beer or glass of wine right now and toast yourself for finally getting to the I-can't-take-it-anymore stage.  
For tomorrow will be a new day...a day in which you can start making all of your dreams come true.
Most of my students have challenges with work, their business, or making money in general. So, for that, I'm going to help you close that gap to finally getting that financial freedom...and as early as the end of this year if you play your cards right.
Yes, that's right.  You'll be able to tell your fat ass boss to shove it up his ass once and for all because you, my friend, will be raking in at least $10,000 to $12,000 per month in net cash flow from your multifamily properties.
Here's an incredible (and loud) 14-minute audio seminar that I want you to listen to:
Listen to it while you're drinking your beer or glass of wine and toasting yourself and toasting your new future because tomorrow is the beginning of your New Life!
See you at the top!
Your mentor,
Monica Main

Posted by: Monica Main AT 10:04 am   |  Permalink   |  Email
Saturday, April 19 2014

This is one of the reasons why I tell all of my students who are working their Aggressive Income Strategies (via a home-based business, preferably) to avoid having a staff (employees) at all costs for several reasons:
#1:  Different personalities = different results of what you'll get from work ethic to personality "meshes" (or clashes).  And to find someone that perfectly "blends" while sustaining an acceptable work ethic is equivalent to finding a single person out of a 10,000,000 prospective employee haystack.  Most of the time you'll find these people eating away at the clock while they chat endlessly about their weekends (either the past weekend, the upcoming weekend, or both) or texting their friends/family...all on your dime, of course. And if you do happen to get someone who is actually working on the clock, you'll be lucky that they aren't screwing something up.
#2:  Liability.  This is a strong work that indicates a variety of things from wondering if your employee will rip you off (now or later...and how little or how much) to a potential lawsuit for a variety of things (from wrongful termination to Worker's Comp to something out in left field like sexual harassment).  The other liability factors fall into the not-doing-their-job-correctly category which can result in a customer getting hurt in some way (physically or financially), which you sustain the liability for.  Or, even worse, hurting the integrity and reputation of the company you've worked so hard to build for years.
#3:  Cost.  To have an employee extends beyond what you actually pay them by the hour.  A lot of people (who haven't had a business) don't realize that an employee costs a lot more.  (And we're not speaking of the "liability" issues as discussed above.)  Not only do you have to pay by the hour (whether they're actually working...or not) but you have to pay for Worker's Comp insurance, unemployment, and health insurance.  So, add about 25% of what you pay them and you'll get a more accurate assessment of what you're actually paying them.  This means that you're actually paying a $15/hour employee about $18.75/hour.
#4:  Entitlement demands.  This is when your employee feels that he or she automatically deserves more money just because they've been there longer.  Forget about the fact that they never bothered to increase or bolster their personal skills such as taking a class in keyboarding (to type faster) or the newest Microsoft Office Suite or Quickbooks...or to improve their skills in any other capacity that I could potentially use to enhance my business.  No.  Just because they were sitting their dead ass in a chair longer than, say, someone else (i.e. a newer employee coming in) must mean that they are entitled to a raise. After all, we're Americans.  We're automatically entitled to "stuff" and more money just because...just freakingbecause, I guess!
And my conflict with one of my staffers fell squarely into Item #4 above.
You see, I've had this one employee who started about 8 months ago.  So, no, she hasn't been here for even a year.  Yet suddenly, she felt she needed a raise.  Fine.  On Monday, I upped her an additional $1 an hour.
Fast forward to Wednesday...yes, this past Wednesday which was merely 2 days after the issued $1-per-hour raise, when this very same employee literally blows up at me for hiring an additional person who I will be starting at $2-per-hour more than what she's making.
Forget about the fact that this person has many more usable skills that I readily need to operate and expand my business to the capacity I'd like it to be at; these skills include being very apt with Quickbooks, tying much faster, and knowing all of the Microsoft Office Suiteprograms with great aptitude.  (All of these things far surpass those skills of the complaining, self-entitled employee I'm speaking of.)  Also, this new employee will be helping me build website and doing other online marketing that I need done, not to mention some of the "personal assistant" stuff that's been thrown to the wayside since I had to get rid of Cindy almost 3 years ago.
This whole nonsense about bringing in someone new "from the street," which she kept bitching about, makes about as much sense as someone working as a janitor for 21 years for the same company bitching that the newly hired CEO is making $500,000 per year more than he is.
Uh...let me break it down: different skills + different job description = different pay.
Seems pretty obvious to me...and probably to you.  But it wasn't to her.
Then it made me realize..."Monica, what the hell are you doing?"
All of you know that I'm in my "shut down mode" right now.  My "I Quit" date was December 31, 2013.  My "shut down" period was to extend to my 40th birthday which is this coming June 14th.
But I have one other little complication that's bringing me to having to wait until December 31, 2014 for my real "I Quit" date.  And that is the lease on my office/warehouse space here in Valencia, California.
I don't like backing out of contractual agreements or doing the midnight-move-out plan where I stiff someone on an arrangement I made with them.  (I believe that brings in bad karma and negative energy that I just don't want right now.)  So, as I continue cutting back mentorship groups, consulting, and other things that have been taking up a lot of my time, I realize that I've already been in "shut down mode" since the lateral part of last year.
I've also found myself focusing on the things that are truly important to me including writing and real estate investing.
Then, I asked myself a question.  "Why do I need an office, overhead, and a staff when I could lose all of the above and double my monthly profits?"
Yes, it's a rhetorical question because the answer is pretty freaking obvious.
I kept hanging onto this office because of fear.  Fear of letting go.  Fear of not making the right decision.  Fear of what my employees would do without a job here.
And now the fear is gone.  It took a blow up with an employee for me to realize that my days of running the shop are long over.
Now, the problem for me has always been how important my students are to me.  This is why I keep training.  Then I realized..."What the hell do I need an office and employees for to keep training and teaching my students?"
I don't need an office/warehouse and the stress of dealing with a staff to continue giving you guys and gals the information you need to continue building wealth.
With that said, I've decided that I'll be shutting down my office/warehouse this coming December/January (when my lease ends).  My other company (Brie Labs) will be moving to its new home in Detroit, Michigan.  I have a warehouse and a kick-ass office manager lined up (who I personally won't be managing).  (I've even more recently considered shutting everything down on September 30th, 2014 while paying off the remainder of my lease until the end of the year as an effort shorten the misery of this huge overhead burden just a little more.)
And I haven't been this f****** excited in a very long time!!!
What does that mean for my awesome students?
I've decided to carry on with my trainings and information to keep you on track with what you need to do to build wealth with both Aggressive and Passive Income Strategies but I'll be doing this on a smaller scale.
Truth be told, I can't live without my students.  You guys and gals give me a purpose and meaning for being here on this planet.  I enjoy showing people how to build wealth.  I really get a kick out of helping people change their lives.
And I never want that to end.  Period.
But, because of the stress of having the overhead I have (staff, warehouse, etc.), it's been bleeding my energy dry and zapping all of my enthusiasm to do the things I really want to do with my students.  The moment the energy-zapping stuff disappears, I'll be able to give you the enthusiasm, energy, and even more kick-ass strategies to drive you to the financial future you've always wanted for yourself.
So, this is a benefit to both of us.  This change will benefit me and you.
With this change, I'll be able to offer more free videos, reports, audio seminars, and mini-courses as well as super low-priced (yet high quality) information products for you to continue on your path of building both Aggressive and Passive Income.
And I can't wait to be able to do the things I've wanted to do for my students without any of the office politics and the stress that I've been going through for the past several years with Global Success.
So, what do you get to learn from all this?
As I mentioned many times before: start a business and/or do your real estate investing activities without having your own employees and without having overhead.  Period.
And the only way that I know how to pull this off is through a highly successful Aggressive Income home-based business and Passive Income real estate investing, preferably with multifamily properties.
There's something I want you to listen to in reference to the Passive Income side...
Here's the link:
I'm revealing my most powerful Passive Income Strategies for our New Economy in this audio seminar.
See you at the top!
Your mentor,
Monica Main

Posted by: Monica Main AT 01:08 pm   |  Permalink   |  Email
Tuesday, April 01 2014

It's amazing what you discover as you trek along in this journey we call a "lifetime on earth." While most of this journey can seem frustrating, once you get the hang of a couple of "secret techniques" to alter your future, you can understand how to maneuver a better life experience for yourself.

One of the most powerful strategies I've learned...then learned again recently is the power of letting go.

Many of you know that I went through a painful divorce recently.  It was not a marriage I wanted to let go of at all.  In fact, it's the only divorce that I didn't want.  But I felt that I had to get out of the situation before it consumed me emotionally.  So, off to divorce court I went.

And it was the fastest divorce I ever had.  Six months went by like a long weekend at the beach.

Then it was over.  Just like that.  And I thought that I'd feel better.

Except I didn't.  I felt the same sense of sadness that I had felt all along.

(Hey, I know I'm an expert when it comes to making money but I'm still working on mastering this relationship thing.  We all have sh** we need to learn...otherwise, why are we still here?)

Then I realized something.  And this something didn't make me happy either.

You see, I realized that I was the problem all along.  I was creating obstacles that weren't there.  I was seeing things the way I wanted to see them.  And it was easy for me to point the finger at everyone else analyzing what was wrong with their decisions (or lack thereof) but I never stopped to look at myself and how I was the problem.

Now, let me outline something magical that happened the moment I was able to just throw in the towel and let it all go.
Yes, that's right.  I literally threw in the towel.  I gave up on the marriage.  I gave up on the business we had together.  I walked away from all of it.  In my mind, it was time to move on.

The moment I truly let it all go was the moment that everything started working out.  The obstacles and walls I created in the situation suddenly dissolved.  Instead of me being a part of swimming in a muddy pond where I couldn't see what was going on as I was helplessly thrashing about, I suddenly became someone that was looking over the situation as if I was in a tree overhead with no emotional attachment or confusion about the situation.  I saw everything completely clearly for the first time in almost 4 years.
And when you can see a situation as if you're just someone observing, two critical things happen:

1)  You find immediate solutions that you failed to see before.

2)  Since you're not emotionally intertwined in the situation, your obstacles begin to melt away immediately.

When you get "on top" of a situation rather than being distraughtly intertwined in the problem/issue, everything changes.  And it changes instantly.

Unfortunately, moving from the perspective of being "in" the problem vs. "on top" of the problem is purely a mental shift that sometimes takes years to occur.

But it doesn't have to.

I did one single thing to make this shift that I could have done in a day instead of waiting for it to "happen" over the course of almost 4 years.

What was that "single thing"?

No, it wasn't just letting go...although that was part of it.

The single thing was taking a step back.  That's right.  I took a huge step back.  (Of course, you have to let go of the emotional attachment of the situation by not caring what happens anymore in order to effectively step back.)

Taking a step back requires you to take a mental and emotional "vacation."  This can mean going up into the mountains or taking a trip to the beach, even for a day.  Commit to notthinking about the "problem/issue" you have at hand and focus only on yourself, how you'd like your life to be like, and how you'd like to feel.  Or just try to think about nothing.  That's even better.

Once you return back to your life, you will probably see the situation from a different perspective.  Especially if you decided to walk away from it...and throw in the towel.  This disconnects you from the emotional involvement and opens your world up to new possibilities.

So, back to me being the problem:  I was the entire problem.  I was holding onto emotions that only became a part of my reality because I told myself they had to be part of my reality. It didn't help that other people told me that I should be feeling a certain way about my situation which, coincidentally, I was fine with until people flooded me with their useless opinions.

Disappointment, stress, anger, anxiety and depression come from one thing and one thing only: your reality doesn't match what you think your reality should be.  However, if you believed that your reality matches what you think your reality should be, that means you're happy and content.

My problem was that my reality wasn't matching what I though my reality should be (i.e. my husband should live in the same household as me vs. living in another state) when, at an earlier time, I was completely fine with it.  I allowed a number of people to convince me that my marriage was "wrong" and "abnormal" which shifted my thoughts about it, thus making me unhappy based on my reality not matching my altered view of what I thought my reality should be.

It took me filing for divorce, going through the painful process, and having the divorce finalized for me to understand that I was the problem.

And then I was reminded of the power of letting go.  Once I threw in the towel on everything, I was instantly put "on top" of the situation (without any emotional attachment) and not only have a renewed energy toward everything but I also was flooded with new solutions to me dilemma.

But most powerful of all, blocks that were there that I had no control over suddenly melted away.  Things I could not get to work, things I could not get people to agree to, and different solutions I tried putting in place without success suddenly worked like gangbusters!  Like magic!!

When you push too hard in any direction, especially to the point of excessive frustration and tears, you will have a hell of a time making anything work and you won't keep your sanity either.  It also means that something is wrong or that the timing is off.

And it means you need to take a step back, relax, and let it go.

When you do, magic will happen in ways that you'll never imagine.  Not only will you have this sense of peace beyond anything you've ever experienced but all the obstacles that were there will suddenly melt away or you'll be shown the true path you were supposed to be on all along.

And that's the secret I wanted to share.

See you at the top!

Your mentor,

Monica Main

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